Based on Ephesians 4:25-32
A major indicator of the health of a community and nation lies in the existence and prioritization of marriages and nuclear families. Society today has tried to convince us that marriage is optional and nuclear families are outdated. Statistics show that about 31.2% of the Black population was married in 2021, compared to 54% of the White population. Additionally, 34.4% of Black men were married compared to 28.6% of Black women. Meanwhile, 55.5% of White men and 52.4% of White women were married. Nearly half of the Black population (50%) had never been married, compared to 27.5% of the White population.
Entertainment and media constantly feed us images of degeneracy, promiscuity, whoredom, domestic violence, broken homes and single-parent households, disrespect, and wickedness as the gold standard of relationships and family. Perhaps this is a major contributor to the Black community’s marriage rates. Movements such as Black Lives Matter, feminism, and the LGBTQIA+ movement seek to disrupt the importance and relevance of marriage and nuclear families. Additionally, abortion rights and family planning services seek to disrupt the natural order The Most High set in place regarding procreation.
If you find yourself watching, waiting, and preparing for your future husband, here are 10 signs that will give a clear indication whether he’s a man of God or a man of the world:
He tells the truth. This one shouldn’t be a shocker. A man of God will not lie to you or anyone else. He will value honesty and seek for others to be honest with him as well.
He has control over his emotions. He doesn’t allow his anger or frustration to cause him to sin or spill over into the next day. He knows how to effectively manage his emotions and will swiftly correct any wrongdoing he may cause as a result of his anger.
He avoids evil and wickedness in his life. He doesn’t entertain debauchery and wickedness. He gives no place to the devil and has room for The Most High in his life.
He’s charitable. He doesn’t work for greedy gain or vanity. He’s willing to lend a hand to those in need and finds ways to build up the community.
He uses his words to build up, not tear down. He doesn’t communicate in a way that’s dishonest, shiesty, or destructive. His communication is edifying and pours life into those he speaks to.
He lives according to The Most High’s will. He doesn’t do things to cause grief, sorrow, or sadness on The Most High or others. He recognizes that The Most High is our Father who created us with pure intentions and seeks to make Him proud.
He traded in the works of the flesh for the fruit of the Spirit. He’s chosen to rid himself of adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, and revellings. Instead, he operates in love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance.
He’s kind. He doesn’t flaunt his masculinity over you in an oppressive manner. He treats you with the same kindness The Most High treats us with.
He’s tender-hearted. He possesses emotional intelligence and uses that to gain a better understanding of your needs and concerns. He loves showing you love and shows appreciation for the role you play in his life.
He’s forgiving. He doesn’t hold grudges towards you or bring up issues in the past to humiliate or belittle you. He offers the same forgiveness to you that The Most High has offered to us and extends grace and mercy to you.
With so many distractions and disruptors attacking YAH’s natural and intentional order, it can be hard to tell who’s for The Most High and who isn’t. By using YAH’s Word as a guide, it is easier to evaluate those who are living according to the flesh and those living according to the Spirit.
This article was written by Dejyah Yisrael. Read more on www.dejyah.life.
Great article!